Below are Max's gifts to his Dad for Daddy's Day this year.
This year I had people ask me...
"How are you able to do this?"
or
" WOW! You amaze me, I couldn't and wouldn't do this if I was in your shoes".
My response...(see below pictures)
#1.I'm able to by God's grace. I didn't do this for him (though it was for him) I did this for our sweet son. If you saw the joy and excitement on his face as we were doing these together and when it was done how proud he was, and if you saw him as we drove to his Dad's house so he could spend the day with him and give him his present, YOU could an d would have been able to do the same thing. Doing anything less would be punishing our sweet boy not his dad. This is NOT this little boys fault. He has been dealt some crappy circumstances but I do not want those circumstances to define who he will become. I do not like that he will grow up in two seperate homes. I think it STINKS! I think the choices and decisions another has made STINK. But I will not be the person that STINKS in our sons eyes.
I WILL do right by our little boy!
#2.
It shouldn't amaze anyone. You COULD do this too. You just have to look beyond their fault(s) (no matter how big) and see their need. God does that with us so we should do that for others. Doesn't make what they did okay. Doesn't make it easier, doesn't mean we are all "okay now", doesn't mean that the choices they made are any easier to swollow, doesn't mean that your heart is "all better". It simply means putting my hurt and broken heart aside and doing what is right even as my heart is aching.
I understand where these people were coming from I really do. I do not think bad of them because they asked. What they really meant I'm sure is that while the gifts weren't big it was the heart that was behind it. It was coming from a place of how could you do what you did for someone who has hurt you so deeply.
God is good ALL the time and I REFUSE to see it any different, you will not be able to prove to me otherwise. He doesn't ask me to understand He just asks me to trust Him. I'm working on it. I'm not perfect never claimed to have been but by God's grace I will make it through the next 14 years of our sweet boys life with my head held high and teach our sweet son what it means to turn the other cheek again and again. Not by my words but by my actions. We all know actions speak louder than words. The saying goes "Your walk talks and your talk talks but your walk talks louder than your talk talks". I want my walk to talk louder than my talk! I will teach him to do right even when what is right isn't popular or easy. To take the high road. It is less raveled but the rewards will be great.
Lets wrap it up this way. Just think of the end, when they turn 18. Think of what you want them to think and know of YOU. I just have to ask myself that question when I'm struggling with a situation and I am snapped back into "I CAN do this".
With GOD all things are possible!
It shouldn't amaze anyone. You COULD do this too. You just have to look beyond their fault(s) (no matter how big) and see their need. God does that with us so we should do that for others. Doesn't make what they did okay. Doesn't make it easier, doesn't mean we are all "okay now", doesn't mean that the choices they made are any easier to swollow, doesn't mean that your heart is "all better". It simply means putting my hurt and broken heart aside and doing what is right even as my heart is aching.
I understand where these people were coming from I really do. I do not think bad of them because they asked. What they really meant I'm sure is that while the gifts weren't big it was the heart that was behind it. It was coming from a place of how could you do what you did for someone who has hurt you so deeply.
God is good ALL the time and I REFUSE to see it any different, you will not be able to prove to me otherwise. He doesn't ask me to understand He just asks me to trust Him. I'm working on it. I'm not perfect never claimed to have been but by God's grace I will make it through the next 14 years of our sweet boys life with my head held high and teach our sweet son what it means to turn the other cheek again and again. Not by my words but by my actions. We all know actions speak louder than words. The saying goes "Your walk talks and your talk talks but your walk talks louder than your talk talks". I want my walk to talk louder than my talk! I will teach him to do right even when what is right isn't popular or easy. To take the high road. It is less raveled but the rewards will be great.
Lets wrap it up this way. Just think of the end, when they turn 18. Think of what you want them to think and know of YOU. I just have to ask myself that question when I'm struggling with a situation and I am snapped back into "I CAN do this".
With GOD all things are possible!
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